One Simple Tip For Living Our Best Selves On and Off Camera

I always ask my clients how they feel about being photographed just before we begin the session. It’s very common to have the response be anything from, “I’m not photogenic.” to “it feels uncomfortable” and even “I hate it” and I completely understand!

I begin with this question so we can start unfolding what the real fear is for so many of my clients…being seen. On some level we fear we wont be accepted for who we are and someone might see those things we feel are flaws.

One of my last clients bravely shared that when she looks in the mirror she doesn’t see who she thinks she is. In this very raw honest moment we both began to welled up with tears and emotion. We want to look in the mirror or at photographs of ourselves and love who we see. The true us. The beauty of of who we are that radiates from the inside.

 Midway through our session, as she began to trust me and the process and allowed me to see the real her fearlessly and with ease.  I showed her the back of my camera and the photograph I captured in that moment of openness.  Her eyes filled with tears as she exclaimed,

“THAT is who I feel like!”

This women, who is one of the most gentle, loving and support women I have ever met, and a long time client has been someone whose beauty has always stayed with me. Her confidence and generous nature have always been at the forefront of how I see her.

Being able to see ourselves for WHO we know we are is an empowering experience. Being able to live in this place can also be empowering to the people around us, in our personal lives and our careers. It also brings a great level of  joy and ease into our lives that is unmatched.

So I started wondering, why can’t we see ourselves in the same way others see us and is there a way we can?

I’d love to share a technique I use with my clients which enables them to embody this authentic place with greater ease. You can try this anytime, anywhere.

Let’s take a moment to try it together….

I ask my clients to give me 3 adjectives describing how they want to be seen. How they would like the world to perceive them. These words can change from day to day depending on what aspect of ourselves we need to call forward. Today let’s choose the one I hear most often, CONFIDENT.

 I ask my clients how the word CONFIDENT feels in their bodies. I ask them to repeat it a few times, live into the word a bit. I ask them to imagine what possessing this attribute might look like in their body, how they might stand, walk or sit, and even how their facial expression might change. We use the word or words as an intention for the photographs we create that day. Soon I see them begin to shift. They grow taller, their gaze is more direct, and their smile more genuine.

Try this next time your not feeling you.  I believe with a little effort and some practice we can live into the best version of who we know we are.

Finally, to all my incredible clients who are willing to be seen for the extraordinarily people you are, who have taught me so much about the beautiful and powerful vulnerability of being seen, I THANK YOU.

 

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My beautiful fearless client, Panda. Thank you for letting me share your experience.

 

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Your Italia Photo Shoot!

First I feel its  important to tell you why I do what I do…. creating portraits. I deeply feel my service in life is to create a safe space for people to been seen.  When we allow the veil to drop, the mask to come off, and we show up in our truth the result is to be seen as our most powerful and beautiful self. I see this time after time in my photography sessions whether I am photographing a venture capitalist for a magazine cover, a yoga teacher for her amazing business *wink wink* or a personal portrait.  I am moved and honored to be a part of this experience every time.

Imagine the incredible beauty we could create in the quant town of Cortina, within the stunning landscape of the Dolomites, or if we are in Venice at the same time, even there! I am swooning just imagining the beauty & memories you would walk away with.

I would like to extend the offer of an Italian photo shoot to 3 people or 3 couples while we share in the incredible and nourishing experience of Laura’s Dolomite retreat.

Your Italia photo session (OMG CAN YOU IMAGINE!?) is an investment of $695 for this, I have to say it, once in a lifetime experience.  Book by May 1st & receive $50 early booking discount. Please schedule a complementary consultation with me here to find out all the details.

Following are a few samples of portraits I’ve created with clients from around the country and around the world. You may recognize 1 or 2 people. 😉

View more of my work @ jennifergrahamphotography.com

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Laura in Careyes, Mexico

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Diana, Studio Session

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Thank You From the Bottom of My Heart!

I am one lucky women and it’s all thanks to you, MY CLIENTS!!

There is honestly no way I could continue to due what I do without you, and I am so grateful I have had chance to create with each and every one of you.

I am always struck by your willingness to be seen for the beauties you all are.  It is a gift to be in that space with you.

Below are some of my favorite photographs we created in 2015!

Kenya to Mexico, Business Portraits to Family, it was an amazing year of creating!

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Girls On Fire in Mombasa. The girls were over the moon about their first camel ride. Daisy and Cheryl screamed with a mixture of fear and joy….we all did that day. 

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Eileen Flannigan, creator of Girls on Fire Leadership Camp getting ready to enjoy some down time in Zanzibar.

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The Cole-Frieman family in gorgeous downtown Oakland during our Family Portrait Session. That gorgeous women and I also play soccer together. Yup, she does it all! 

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Christina Graham, my gorgeous sister, just being her beautiful stunning self.

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Shahid family love. This family session at Lafayette Reservoir was the perfect location for this sweet family of four.

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Isis Wenger, speaker, activist, engineer and #ilooklikeanengineer creator embracing all sides of being a women in the studio.

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Chef and yoga instructor, Melissa Koh whipping up a little bruschetta for our lifestyle shoot at her home. Don’t you just want to live in that kitchen? 

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Stunning ballerina, Samantha on location in New Jersey. There is nothing this lovely young lady cant do, even balancing on a rickety table for me.

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Stunner, Jennifer Winfrey, birth photographer, on location at Willow Heights in Morgan Hill.

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Author Carolyn Philips was ease and grace personified during our studio shoot as her loving husband waited with support.

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Jacinta Kioko, looking gorgeous in Kenya. This little spot was up the street from her house just off the side of the road. Making images anywhere is part of the fun!

Miss Cheesemonger herself, Veronique Kherian, on location just off highway 1 in northern CA. The poison ivy I took how was well worth the shot.

You all make this dream possible, thank you and Happy New Year!